Tell your kids you LIKE them!
I love getting help and also how parents share and help each other too!
Recently I found more and more amazing online resources as I’ve been seeking out more tools in helping my husband and I parent. I’ve been thinking about what I hope to accomplish as a parent. I want my boys to be happy and confident. That sums it up. And resilient. If they can be all of these things they should have the tools to deal with whatever gets thrown their way.
Life is full of challenges and if they didn’t have them then their life would be very uneventful and dare I say boring? We can't stop them from coming so we may as well put down our guard and surrender. I’ve learned to embrace these challenges and know there is something super special around the corner and to try and learn from every hiccup. When you’ve given lemons, make lemonade!
I loved the 10 Parenting TIps to Raising Confident Kids – see it here – www.nolimitsnation.com.
This reminds me of recent advice from a friend. When was the last time you told your kids that you LIKED them? Not loved them - as they’ll tell you we have to say that as parents - but LIKE them and enjoy spending time with them. I’m trying to use this tactic more to communicate and help their confidence so they know that they are very LIKE-ABLE. I tell my 8 year old that actually he’s very funny and I like hanging out with him. He beams. I tell my 11 year old that I believe in him and he can do anything he wants and see him soften before my eyes.
I tell my kids all these great positive things when they’re sleeping too because, why not! If it gets into their conscious and sub-conscious all the better! As a matter of fact, let’s tell EVERYONE that we love how much we like them. You hear about it when someone doesn’t like you or someone else so let’s flip that around. Only positive gossip about how awesome your people are! I only have people around me that I like, but I must still remember to tell them every so often so they know too.
The power of positivity! By the way, I think you’re AWESOME! x